Thursday, February 4, 2010

Happy Birthday, Nikash


Today, my baby turns 3. Your grandmother has given you a big red car to ride around in. Dipika Mummy gave you a fabulous shirt-jeans combo. Many people will come and give you lovely gifts. And you will be thrilled, but wonder why Mama didn’t give you anything.

I'm giving you what I've got (but not my stash of chocolates hah !) :

Clouds :
Your first playschool complaint came in. Your teachers told me while all the other children sat to study, you were wandering around in your own world. I told her, So Am I. Lost in my own world. In the clouds. It’s a beautiful place to be. It’s where the dreams come out of. And life, without those dreams, is F-all !

Bump on the head : You jump off the cabinet, fall, get a bump on your head, cry, and then go jump again. I can't stop you. I have scars on my knees that I got from falling off cycles, and skates, and walls. If there’s a wall, you gotta climb it, Niks. If there’s a sofa, you gotta jump off it. Getting hurt is tons better than living scared.

An orange grape : I asked you the other day what colour the grape is. You said it’s grape-colored. Who said it should be purple? Other people? Books? Teachers? It’s your life, and don’t let anyone else tell you how to live it. (Not even me). Go ahead and be different. Stay honest. And become whatever colour grape you want to.

ok then - some chocolate : Most of all, I want to give you the promise that you are loved. So so sooooo much. And please never be afraid to love back. Go ahead and do anything you want. As long as you don't hurt anyone else. And if you hurt yourself ? There will be a bandaid and a cup of hot chocolate whenever you get home.


And yeah – I’ll try not to call you Baby any more. OK, Pup ? :)

29 comments:

  1. Now you made me cry. It's better when you just make us laugh.

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  2. Happy B'day my kukkoo Nik:-)

    Lessons Nik's teaching us:

    Clouds; the class is the world outside 4 walls and not within

    bump on the head; every scar or bump is a trophy, its how you see it.

    An orange grape: its art. you don't get it.
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    Nik, I love you more that everything in the world, you inspire me. alok mamu :-)

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  3. This is like the 3 Idiots story :).

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  4. Awwww Jane..Beautifully written..Neel & Niks are extremely lucky to have a mom like you :-)
    Wishing little Niks a very happy b'day..

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  5. awwww...that was so cute and so very you jane. and life's great lessons taught to little niks by such simple things. there is so much to learn from you.
    And one fine day when he would be a nice young man, he will read this post and thank you so much.
    wish him happy birthday from my side too. will make him lots of paper frogs someday, as my gift :) though it comes no where close to what you are giving him.

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  6. Very well written.. and wish we would too do some of it.. both your (actually mine :)) are the sweetest boys.... loads of hugs and loves to them... and they know they are loved by you so much.. no matter what happens Mommy is there for them!!! which too they know

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  7. Unable to understand all instances which you wrote, but whatever I understood I can say only one word.. "I am Speechless"....

    very emotional confession..

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  8. Beautifully written Jane! And oh! so relevant and thought-provoking. Idealistic mommy you are! And Niks is surely very fortunate to have chosen your womb to incubate in :))
    Here's wishing Niks a Very Happy Birthday! Do give him a huge bear hug and a cuddle for me, Jane.... until i meet him again
    - Ananya

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  9. :):) luv ya jane auntie..u r simply d best... in the ecard i sent,1st it said icky baby, but l8r i corrected it:).. cant blv he s 3 n goes 2 school n has a fren called "povis"..waitin 2 wish d bday boy:)

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  10. awww, happy birthday to nikash from me too!

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  11. Lalita KambhampatiFebruary 5, 2010 at 6:22 PM

    Nik has a really wonderful mom and I am sure he loves her a lot. But he will adore his mom a whole lot more when he realizes all the gifts that she gave him.

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  12. and what did de dad give him? nik has 2 parents that are such gr8 guys... lucky dude !

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  13. That is the best gift in the whole wide world. Happy birthday Nik!

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  14. absolutely lovely. Nik and me read it together and loved it :)


    Nikhil wanted to tell u that Chelsea and Arsenal are playing this saturday and arsenals is going to get their butts smashed!

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  15. Wishing Nikash a vey Happy Birthday!hope he has agreat time with the whole family around him.
    The birthday gift u have given is beautiful,save one for every year, until he understands it and the emotions that went with it.
    I tell u before u know it he will be grown up and gone,so treasure these moments!

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  16. oh, this is good. this is "print and frame it" good. Must. Remember. All. Life.

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  17. what a gift for your son, jane! you know when u feel down sometimes that you are not able to work and do something useful, well i think you are wrong! if you can pass these values down to your children, if you shape them and help them become good and happy people, you have contributed more than what most of working people can do in their lifetime. Indeed Niks and Neel are blessed

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  18. the best thing a mom can give. to let her child just be......I totally subscribe to your school of thought.

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  19. You bet jane....a mother's gift wrapped in different simple ways ....is more precious than the most expensive diamond....

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  20. thank you. guess basically deep down we all want the same thing for our kids - to grow up free-spirited, and happy - tho we do our level best to put them into different boxes. huh ?

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  21. u bet jane - Living in the bay area, I am stuffing mine into cookie cutters without even realizing it!

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  22. nicely written Jane. Missed Niks bday, hope you he had a great day

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  23. A belated Birthday wish for the lucky chap(pup?nah..)
    How I seriously wish I could be you...I still do not have heart to let my kid jump off the sofa..my fears have made him a very un-sporting guy, afraid of taking leaps...but I am working on it, for sure, slowly but steadily trying to budge him out from the cocoon of my over protectiveness , to fall, stumble, get hurt in this bad bad world..A very difficult thing for me..but I have to..sigh..Wish kids were born with some KAVACh(a protective shield) , its easy to give birth to a baby, but so hard to see your lil'one walking in the crazy world full of the pitfalls

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  24. one of ur best pieces....beautiful

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  25. Nice way to get out of gifting your kid

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  26. Nice way to get out of gifting your kid.

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  27. lajawaab :) Happy 3rd Niks!!

    I read somewhere--"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One is roots; the other, wings."
    and jgji, you indeed have given wings to your munchkin to soar.

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  28. Hi,
    I had tears in my eyes. cute one and i should tell my kid to read it once she's grown.

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  29. Gilligilliappa and Neel are fortunate to have such lovely parents as you and S. And K is very fortunate that she'll have you in her life too. Make that happen quickly!

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